Comments on: The Anxiety of Impending Fatherhood

By: Same boat

Same boat — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 21:17:45 +0000

Right there with you! 2nd child due in march selling the too small house. Trying to get all the little crap done so it is market ready in a bad economy. Bills stacking up and not sleeping. Not sleeping well that is. Anxiety is cripling me. Wife is sick and does not seem to want to talk about my anxiety. Guess my point is that you are not alone.

By: Mrs. Micah

Mrs. Micah — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 03:06:10 +0000

Since all the previous people who’ve answered have been men…I’d say that maybe it’s because you know what’s ahead, but it’s just as likely because you don’t know.

Well, because you’ve learned that there’s so much uncertainty about deliveries and a child’s life. There are so many responsibilities and risks. But as someone who hasn’t yet had any kids, if you told me right now that I was pregnant, I would probably be just like you—anxious, having a hard time sleeping, etc.

Good luck! It seems like you’ve done well with the first, best wishes for a smooth delivery and family life. :)

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By: Glblguy

Glblguy — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 11:20:44 +0000

Just like Mark said, you know what to expect and you know what’s coming. Before you didn’t, that’s why you’re so much more worried about it.

Like you said, you will be fine. Matthew 6:34 always puts things in perspective for me.

@FourPillars trade my 6 for your 2 for a few days. That would give us both some perspective!

By: Four Pillars

Four Pillars — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 00:48:46 +0000

You’ll be fine. Two kids are tough though….very tough! :)

By: That One Caveman

That One Caveman — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:22:57 +0000

Thanks Mark. I probably won’t post photos since they wouldn’t do it justice. I’d need a wide-angle lens to capture it best. I may, on the other hand, do a video tour. But only after the basement kitchenette is done sometime early next year. (Had to put it off since we ran out of cash to finish it, too.)

By: Markemmanuel

Markemmanuel — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:20:09 +0000

The excitement probably over rode your anxiety during when you daughter was born and when you get married. Now that you know what to expect, you’re over thinking the whole thing. I over think everything. It’s not a good place to be.

Just be in the moment now. Look at everything and smile. Write everything that’s worrying you in a journal and let it take care of its self. Think about all the positives this will bring your family and don’t sweat the struggles. Don’t worry about the basement. It will be done eventually. Like I told my friend Diane, some people (like me) wishes that I had your worries.

–mark–

PS- are you going to post photos of your basement when it’s done? It’d be sweet to see before and after photos. :)